Re-Wiring Relationships

In recent years, non-traditional relationships have permeated every corner of my life and soul. They have become the new reality — replacing old roles, social norms, structures. There remained a lot of old wiring here, so in my recent personal retreat, I dove into re-wiring relationships.

Re-wiring comes in three areas:

• Upgrading the language and narrative for relationships
• Shifting to a heart-first approach to relationships
• Establishing boundaries

In reflecting on this, I realized that I hadn’t yet upgraded my narratives and beliefs about relationships to reflect these current realities. I still had a lot of old language about what a relationship was. Much of which was based on traditional roles. In particular, the language and mindset around marriage and what that means.

I realized that I have a head-first approach to most relationships. The highest level a head-based relationship can go is either obsession or co-dependency. Head-based relationships contribute to an illusion that causes additional suffering; making the hard work of relationships even more difficult. What I needed was to shift to a heart-based approach to relationships. Heart-based relationships are limitless and transcendent. Heart-based relationships run on unconditional love and freedom.